Wife On The Rocks I Gaslighting, Addiction, Codependency, Al Anon, Alcoholism, Recovery
Did you marry the man of your dreams, only to now find alcohol seeping into every part of your family? As a woman of faith, committed to your vows, do you struggle to walk out your convictions amidst the chaos and confusion that has devastated your marriage? Do you wish you had someone to confide in without judgment, consequences later or let’s be honest, hearing the worst advice EVER from well meaning people? Despite your relentless efforts, do you feel betrayed, stuck in a cycle, praying for a breakthrough and wondering if things really will be ok? This is how everything was in my marriage for SO long!! I get it! In this podcast you will find hope regardless of your current situation. As you tune in each week your spirit will be lifted as you recognize that you are NOT in this battle alone. You will come to know that only through Him can you learn to model a much needed peaceful presence to your children, whose little hearts are also wondering if things will be ok. My mission is to share my experience, strength and hope with women like me who are praying for breakthrough. The Lord’s light shines even in the darkness of addiction, and the darkness cannot overcome it. I am a wife, a homeschooling momma, and a woman who has learned that nothing is impossible for God. Sometimes I wish I hadn’t had to learn all of this while withstanding circumstances that I would have rather avoided - but then would my faith be this strong without all the trials? You might listen and mistakenly assume that I have it “all figured out”, because if I am honest, I still can’t figure out how to keep track of my phone most days. However, I , without a doubt, have found a peace that surpasses understanding and I want to share everything God has taught me with you as you navigate this road as well. I have found that applying the Bible to my situation allows me to shift my eyes off the problem and to refocus on my God who can redeem and restore otherwise hopeless situations. Psalms 55:22 tells us, “Cast your burdens on the Lord and he will sustain you. He will not permit the righteous to be moved”. In the eye of the storm it is hard to have a right perspective when everyday you are walking on eggshells trying to keep your family together! I have a suspicion that I am not alone here and if you can relate with anything I have said, then this podcast is for you. Nothing changes if nothing changes, right? :) So, if you are ready to experience some breakthrough, listen up. You do not have to do this alone and you didn’t find this podcast by accident. Take a deep breath even when it seems impossible. Be willing to trust that God can do more than you even imagine.....right where you are today which is so far from where you wanted to be. I know you are running everywhere and doing everything for everyone, but THIS moment of rest is for you! Allow me to serve you a little peace on the rocks.
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Episodes
Tuesday Feb 25, 2025
Tuesday Feb 25, 2025
Connect with me at hello@wifeontherocks.com
It is the ultimate question! Join me as I pour out my heart on this topic that often took me captive and ran through my head on repeat! I didn't want to have to make an impossible choice! Do you find yourself thinking about these two options and trying to decide what to do? This is VERY common!!
If I stay how do I shelter them from the impact of what they see in our home?
If I leave how do I keep them safe when I wouldn't be with them and I don't want to split time with them!
Talk about an IMPOSSIBLE choice we often face!!
QUESTIONS? Submit your question to the email above and listen for a response on the show.
Coming Spring 2025 1 on 1 Sessions! Interested? Details coming soon. Waiting list available. Email hello@wifeontherocks.com
Friday Feb 14, 2025
Friday Feb 14, 2025
“ I feel like his mother!”
Did you get married expecting a spouse and a life partner? Do you need someone to lean on and instead end up picking up all of the slack PLUS handling his stuff too? Are you struggling with conflicting thoughts on how to navigate these feelings? We will dive into the reasons that I believe contribute to this dynamic especially for Christian wives!
As alcohol takes over, the level of dependency increases and this becomes a common experience. Join me today for a discussion on the first of many discussions on this important topic. Hey beauty! I see you and I hope you will join me today!!
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Send a QUESTION to the show! I would love to hear from you and answer your unique question on the show!
Curious about working with me? I offer 1 on 1 sessions where we can meet privately!! Just us! You will have a best friend in your pocket plus the support you are looking for! Let’s chat! Email me at hello@wifeontherocks.com if this is a lifeline you are looking for:)
Tuesday Jan 14, 2025
Tuesday Jan 14, 2025
Connect with me at hello@wifeontherocks.com
QUESTIONS? Submit your question to the email above and listen for a response on the show.
Do you attend meetings already? If not, why? What options are even out there? What are the barriers you face? There are so many resources for us wives and I want to share a few with you today! Do not walk this journey alone! Alcoholism in the home is defeating and exhausting. I have found so much hope and strength in relating with others whose families also are walking out an addiction and/or recovery path!
Celebrate Recovery: Online and In-person
https://celebraterecovery.com/find-help-2/
Alanon:
In person https://al-anon.org/al-anon-meetings/find-an-al-anon-meeting/
Online Alanon Meetings: (No Zoom or anything required)
https://meetings.al-anon.org/electronic-meeting-page/
Want to work with me? Book a session. https://calendly.com/wifeontherocks/1hrcoachingsession or email me at hello@wifeontherocks.com
Tuesday Jan 07, 2025
Tuesday Jan 07, 2025
How to support ideas of Recovery in the New Year! Did your husband mention a New Years Resolution to cut back drinking? Are you praying he will walk into REVOVERY this Year? Do you wish he would make some kind of a commitment for change? Anything would give you hope at this point!! Tune in to hear how you can support recovery and future conversations. It isn't easy to offer support to him when things are already so painful, but this conversation will hopefully give you some perspective on things that you can do right NOW.
This episode was approved by my husband as a very helpful perspective on what helped him and addresses a few of the things that were not helpful.
It’s Not About The Nail Video On YouTube:
https://youtu.be/-4EDhdAHrOg?si=1XbELB_GHLm36ow5
Connect with me at hello@wifeontherocks.com and send your questions to the show!
Curious about working with me? I offer 1 on 1 sessions where we can meet privately!! Just us! You will have a best friend in your pocket plus the support you are looking for! Let’s chat! Email me at hello@wifeontherocks.com if this is a lifeline you are looking for:)
Holiday Survival Guide for Wives (6 Episodes)
PART 1 HOLIDAY SURVIVAL GUIDE SERIES // Parenting With An Alcoholic Husband? Tips for Peace & Joy With Kids. https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/wife-on-the-rocks-i-alcoholic-husband-christian/id1780450985?i=1000678239979
PART 2 HOLIDAY SURVIVAL GUIDE SERIES // Navigating Drinking Culture? Hint- Alcohol is Normalized EVERYWHERE!! Are Your BOUNDARIES Ready? https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/wife-on-the-rocks-i-alcoholic-husband-christian/id1780450985?i=1000679170765
PART 3 HOLIDAY SURVIVAL GUIDE SERIES // Do You LOVE an Alcoholic? Safety Steps to Guard Your Heart, Home, and Children. https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/wife-on-the-rocks-i-alcoholic-husband-christian/id1780450985?i=1000680685353
PART 4 HOLIDAY SURVIVAL GUIDE SERIES // Lonely? Hopeless? Stressed? Biblical Encouragement For The Christian Wife <3 https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/wife-on-the-rocks-i-alcoholic-husband-christian/id1780450985?i=1000681397377
PART 5 HOLIDAY SURVIVAL GUIDE SERIES // Are You Exhausted in the Chaos Of Addiction? 3 Tips for Biblical Rest and Renewal God’s Way. https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/wife-on-the-rocks-i-alcoholic-husband-christian/id1780450985?i=1000682166326
PART 6 HOLIDAY SURVIVAL GUIDE SERIES // Praying Your Husband Will Choose Recovery ASAP? Husband Approved Tips To Support The Pre-Recovery Stage. https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/wife-on-the-rocks-i-alcoholic-husband-christian/id1780450985?i=1000682992653
Monday Dec 30, 2024
Monday Dec 30, 2024
Are you exhausted? The fallout can be immense after holidays or special occasions. I believe we experience this at a higher and deeper level in marriages struggling with addiction and its impact on our families! Join me for some tips to get the rest and renewal you need in impossible situations. What can Biblical rest and renewal look like in a family wrestling through alcoholism? God has not hidden the answers from us! Let’s dive in!
Connect with me at hello@wifeontherocks.com
Questions? Send your question to the show!!
Holiday Survival Guide for Wives: 6 Episodes
PART 1 HOLIDAY SURVIVAL GUIDE SERIES // Parenting With An Alcoholic Husband? Tips for Peace & Joy With Kids. https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/wife-on-the-rocks-i-alcoholic-husband-christian/id1780450985?i=1000678239979
PART 2 HOLIDAY SURVIVAL GUIDE SERIES // Navigating Drinking Culture? Hint- Alcohol is Normalized EVERYWHERE!! Are Your BOUNDARIES Ready? https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/wife-on-the-rocks-i-alcoholic-husband-christian/id1780450985?i=1000679170765
PART 3 HOLIDAY SURVIVAL GUIDE SERIES // Do You LOVE an Alcoholic? Safety Steps to Guard Your Heart, Home, and Children. https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/wife-on-the-rocks-i-alcoholic-husband-christian/id1780450985?i=1000680685353
PART 4 HOLIDAY SURVIVAL GUIDE SERIES // Lonely? Hopeless? Stressed? Biblical Encouragement For The Christian Wife <3 https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/wife-on-the-rocks-i-alcoholic-husband-christian/id1780450985?i=1000681397377
PART 5 HOLIDAY SURVIVAL GUIDE SERIES // Are You Exhausted in the Chaos Of Addiction? 3 Tips for Biblical Rest and Renewal God’s Way. https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/wife-on-the-rocks-i-alcoholic-husband-christian/id1780450985?i=1000682166326
PART 6 HOLIDAY SURVIVAL GUIDE SERIES // Praying Your Husband Will Choose Recovery ASAP? Husband Approved Tips To Support The Pre-Recovery Stage. https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/wife-on-the-rocks-i-alcoholic-husband-christian/id1780450985?i=1000682992653
Monday Dec 23, 2024
Monday Dec 23, 2024
What do we do with all of these emotions that hit us and create a storm of heaviness? The Bible gives us some direction on this topic and as a gift from me to you, tune in to hear my heart for you my sweet friend. The creator of the universe LOVES you!
Connect with me at hello@wifeontherocks.com
Send your questions to the show!
Holiday Survival Guide for Wives: 6 Episodes
PART 1 HOLIDAY SURVIVAL GUIDE SERIES // Parenting With An Alcoholic Husband? Tips for Peace & Joy With Kids. https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/wife-on-the-rocks-i-alcoholic-husband-christian/id1780450985?i=1000678239979
PART 2 HOLIDAY SURVIVAL GUIDE SERIES // Navigating Drinking Culture? Hint- Alcohol is Normalized EVERYWHERE!! Are Your BOUNDARIES Ready? https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/wife-on-the-rocks-i-alcoholic-husband-christian/id1780450985?i=1000679170765
PART 3 HOLIDAY SURVIVAL GUIDE SERIES // Do You LOVE an Alcoholic? Safety Steps to Guard Your Heart, Home, and Children. https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/wife-on-the-rocks-i-alcoholic-husband-christian/id1780450985?i=1000680685353
PART 4 HOLIDAY SURVIVAL GUIDE SERIES // Lonely? Hopeless? Stressed? Biblical Encouragement For The Christian Wife <3 https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/wife-on-the-rocks-i-alcoholic-husband-christian/id1780450985?i=1000681397377
PART 5 HOLIDAY SURVIVAL GUIDE SERIES // Are You Exhausted in the Chaos Of Addiction? 3 Tips for Biblical Rest and Renewal God’s Way. https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/wife-on-the-rocks-i-alcoholic-husband-christian/id1780450985?i=1000682166326
PART 6 HOLIDAY SURVIVAL GUIDE SERIES // Praying Your Husband Will Choose Recovery ASAP? Husband Approved Tips To Support The Pre-Recovery Stage. https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/wife-on-the-rocks-i-alcoholic-husband-christian/id1780450985?i=1000682992653
Tuesday Dec 17, 2024
Tuesday Dec 17, 2024
What will you do if your husband drives intoxicated? How can you protect your kids from the impacts of alcoholism if things get out of hand? Do you have a plan of how to walk through this valley and make it through these next few weeks?
Connect with me at hello@wifeontherocks.com
I would LOVE to hear from you. Send a question to the show and you may just get a response on an upcoming episode!
Holiday Survival Guide for Wives (6 Episodes)
PART 1 HOLIDAY SURVIVAL GUIDE SERIES // Parenting With An Alcoholic Husband? Tips for Peace & Joy With Kids. https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/wife-on-the-rocks-i-alcoholic-husband-christian/id1780450985?i=1000678239979
PART 2 HOLIDAY SURVIVAL GUIDE SERIES // Navigating Drinking Culture? Hint- Alcohol is Normalized EVERYWHERE!! Are Your BOUNDARIES Ready? https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/wife-on-the-rocks-i-alcoholic-husband-christian/id1780450985?i=1000679170765
PART 3 HOLIDAY SURVIVAL GUIDE SERIES // Do You LOVE an Alcoholic? Safety Steps to Guard Your Heart, Home, and Children. https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/wife-on-the-rocks-i-alcoholic-husband-christian/id1780450985?i=1000680685353
PART 4 HOLIDAY SURVIVAL GUIDE SERIES // Lonely? Hopeless? Stressed? Biblical Encouragement For The Christian Wife <3 https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/wife-on-the-rocks-i-alcoholic-husband-christian/id1780450985?i=1000681397377
PART 5 HOLIDAY SURVIVAL GUIDE SERIES // Are You Exhausted in the Chaos Of Addiction? 3 Tips for Biblical Rest and Renewal God’s Way. https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/wife-on-the-rocks-i-alcoholic-husband-christian/id1780450985?i=1000682166326
PART 6 HOLIDAY SURVIVAL GUIDE SERIES // Praying Your Husband Will Choose Recovery ASAP? Husband Approved Tips To Support The Pre-Recovery Stage. https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/wife-on-the-rocks-i-alcoholic-husband-christian/id1780450985?i=1000682992653
Wednesday Dec 04, 2024
Wednesday Dec 04, 2024
Holidays and alcohol tend to go hand in hand in our culture. How can we regain some control of this painful reality to manage alcohol's presence at our family gatherings this year?
-Attend events as normal or decline invitations?? How to make a plan!
-Boundary setting
Reclaim this season for you and your children. <3
Connect with me hello@wifeontherocks.com
Holiday Survival Guide for Wives (6 Episodes)
PART 1 HOLIDAY SURVIVAL GUIDE SERIES // Parenting With An Alcoholic Husband? Tips for Peace & Joy With Kids. https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/wife-on-the-rocks-i-alcoholic-husband-christian/id1780450985?i=1000678239979
PART 2 HOLIDAY SURVIVAL GUIDE SERIES // Navigating Drinking Culture? Hint- Alcohol is Normalized EVERYWHERE!! Are Your BOUNDARIES Ready? https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/wife-on-the-rocks-i-alcoholic-husband-christian/id1780450985?i=1000679170765
PART 3 HOLIDAY SURVIVAL GUIDE SERIES // Do You LOVE an Alcoholic? Safety Steps to Guard Your Heart, Home, and Children. https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/wife-on-the-rocks-i-alcoholic-husband-christian/id1780450985?i=1000680685353
PART 4 HOLIDAY SURVIVAL GUIDE SERIES // Lonely? Hopeless? Stressed? Biblical Encouragement For The Christian Wife <3 https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/wife-on-the-rocks-i-alcoholic-husband-christian/id1780450985?i=1000681397377
PART 5 HOLIDAY SURVIVAL GUIDE SERIES // Are You Exhausted in the Chaos Of Addiction? 3 Tips for Biblical Rest and Renewal God’s Way. https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/wife-on-the-rocks-i-alcoholic-husband-christian/id1780450985?i=1000682166326
PART 6 HOLIDAY SURVIVAL GUIDE SERIES // Praying Your Husband Will Choose Recovery ASAP? Husband Approved Tips To Support The Pre-Recovery Stage. https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/wife-on-the-rocks-i-alcoholic-husband-christian/id1780450985?i=1000682992653
Tuesday Nov 26, 2024
Tuesday Nov 26, 2024
Trying to parent with someone in Active Alcoholism is nearly impossible! Ask me! I did it for years and even the best mama can get so overwhelmed by….. Gaslighting. Minimization. Confusion. Frustration. Anger.
In the depths of your husband’s addiction have you ever felt paralyzed trying to plan and schedule life with kids because your husband refuses to commit or follow through?
In this episode, we’ll explore the heartbreak of unilateral parenting with an alcoholic husband.
Single-Married Parent: Can you relate to the description below?
A devoted wife and mother striving to balance her children’s needs with her heartfelt desire to co-parent alongside her husband. However, his ongoing battle with alcoholism continually places her in the painful position of shouldering the weight of parenting decisions alone—ultimately ensuring the stability, safety, and well-being her children deserve.
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Check Out The Children/Parenting Series:
EP 15 Childhood Trauma And The Impact of Alcoholism On Our Kids! ACA ACOA CPTSD
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/wife-on-the-rocks-i-gaslighting-addiction/id1780450985?i=1000702802054
EP 16 Parenting Through The Dysfunction Of Alcoholism. How Do I Lead My Kiddos? ACOA Al Ateen Al Anon
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/wife-on-the-rocks-i-gaslighting-addiction/id1780450985?i=1000703692052 EP 17 Recovery Of Your Family Begins With You! Combatting Childhood Trauma From The Trenches. ACA Al Ateen
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/wife-on-the-rocks-i-gaslighting-addiction/id1780450985?i=1000704550728 ———
Related Parenting Episodes:
EP 02 Parenting With An Alcoholic Husband? Tips For Peace and Joy With Kids.
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/wife-on-the-rocks-i-gaslighting-addiction/id1780450985?i=1000678239979
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Links for more information:
ACOA and ACA https://adultchildren.org/
Al Anon https://al-anon.org/
Al Ateen https://al-anon.org/newcomers/teen-corner-alateen/
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Want to go deeper? If this episode spoke to you and you're ready to start untangling the chaos with someone who gets it, I’d love to walk with you. Email me at hello@wifeontherocks.com to get on the waiting list for a one-on-one session—personalized support, rooted in faith, just for you.
And don’t forget—I'm always accepting questions at hello@wifeontherocks.com. I’ll be weaving your questions into future episodes, so feel free to reach out anytime.
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Holiday Survival Guide for Wives: (6 Episodes)
PART 1 HOLIDAY SURVIVAL GUIDE SERIES // Parenting With An Alcoholic Husband? Tips for Peace & Joy With Kids. https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/wife-on-the-rocks-i-alcoholic-husband-christian/id1780450985?i=1000678239979
PART 2 HOLIDAY SURVIVAL GUIDE SERIES // Navigating Drinking Culture? Hint- Alcohol is Normalized EVERYWHERE!! Are Your BOUNDARIES Ready? https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/wife-on-the-rocks-i-alcoholic-husband-christian/id1780450985?i=1000679170765
PART 3 HOLIDAY SURVIVAL GUIDE SERIES // Do You LOVE an Alcoholic? Safety Steps to Guard Your Heart, Home, and Children. https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/wife-on-the-rocks-i-alcoholic-husband-christian/id1780450985?i=1000680685353
PART 4 HOLIDAY SURVIVAL GUIDE SERIES // Lonely? Hopeless? Stressed? Biblical Encouragement For The Christian Wife <3 https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/wife-on-the-rocks-i-alcoholic-husband-christian/id1780450985?i=1000681397377
PART 5 HOLIDAY SURVIVAL GUIDE SERIES // Are You Exhausted in the Chaos Of Addiction? 3 Tips for Biblical Rest and Renewal God’s Way. https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/wife-on-the-rocks-i-alcoholic-husband-christian/id1780450985?i=1000682166326
PART 6 HOLIDAY SURVIVAL GUIDE SERIES // Praying Your Husband Will Choose Recovery ASAP? Husband Approved Tips To Support The Pre-Recovery Stage. https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/wife-on-the-rocks-i-alcoholic-husband-christian/id1780450985?i=1000682992653
Tuesday Nov 19, 2024
Tuesday Nov 19, 2024
Welcome to Wife on the Rocks!
Have you ever felt crazy in your alcoholic marriage? Does it feel like you are the keeper of secrets and no one else knows what is happening behind closed doors? You are not alone.
God sees everything.
Connect with me at hello@wifeontherocks.com
Send your questions to the show!
Curious about working with me? I offer 1 on 1 sessions where we can meet privately!! Just us! You will have a best friend in your pocket plus the support you are looking for! Let’s chat! Email me at hello@wifeontherocks.com if this is a lifeline you are looking for:)