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Ep 30 How Did It Get This Bad? Setting Boundaries In An Alcoholic Marriage Broke My Heart!

There’s a specific kind of heartbreak that comes when you realize the life you dreamed of isn’t the life you’re living—and that setting a boundary might be the only way to protect your peace, your children, or your sanity.
In this deeply personal episode, I share my own experience of grieving what I thought family life would look like—and the painful but necessary process of accepting that I had to set boundaries in an addicted marriage in order to stay grounded in reality, not fantasy.
You’ll hear:
The emotional weight that comes before setting a boundary
What it’s like to pray and wrestle with God before taking action
How it feels to be forced into choices you never wanted to make
The internal tug-of-war between loyalty to your marriage and protecting your children
If you’ve ever asked, “How did it get this bad?” or “Why do I have to be the one to draw the line?”—this episode is for you.
💌 If you’re feeling torn about where to draw the line, you’re not alone. Email me at hello@wifeontherocks.com with your question—I may include it in a future episode.
And if you need personal support to find clarity and peace, my one-on-one summer coaching sessions may be a great fit. 
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Ep 29 Do I Keep Bringing Sobriety Up? How Can I Encourage AA? Insights From Our Story: A Husband In Recovery Answers These Questions ♥ //Interview Part 2//

Welcome back to Part 2 of my honest conversation with my husband, who is now in long-term recovery from alcohol. This episode dives into some of the most painful questions Christian wives face when living with an alcoholic spouse:
💔 Should I keep bringing up the drinking?🙏 Can I encourage AA or other recovery programs without nagging?🔁 Why does it feel like we’re repeating the same toxic cycle over and over again—and he doesn’t even see it?
If you’ve ever felt like something big happens, emotions explode, and then everything just quietly resets without real change... you’re not alone. We talk about why this cycle happens, what we’ve learned from it, and how God can open the door to true conversations and healing—even when it feels impossible.
We also explore:
How to invite your husband to open AA meetings (even as a recovery date night!)
Why some AA meetings don’t go well—and why it’s okay to try again
The role of prayer and timing in recovery conversations
Encouragement for when you’re discouraged, stuck, or silently suffering
This episode is for the wife who is doing her best to hold it all together with grace, but who needs real support, real answers, and real hope.
Full Listener Question:
"My husband admits his drinking is a problem, but he's not doing anything about it. If I ask him if he’s looked into AA, Celebrate Recovery, or Regeneration, he says he hasn’t had time and will look into it later. He’s gone to AA meetings before but says he doesn’t think it’s for him. Do I keep bringing this up? I don’t want to nag him, but it’s eating at me inside not to say anything. I feel like we’re in a painful cycle—something happens, we talk about it for a couple days, then we move on until it happens again. I feel like he’s just appeasing me in those moments because he knows I’ll eventually stop asking. He doesn’t communicate his feelings at all, so I have no idea what he’s thinking."
🔗 Find an AA meeting near you https://www.aa.org/find-aa
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Ep 28 Want A Peek Inside HIS Alcoholic Brain? A Husband In RECOVERY Shares Why Conversations With Wifey Did Not Lead To Quick Change And What You Can Do Instead //Interview- Part 1//

In this special two-part episode, I sit down with my husband—who is in long-term recovery from alcoholism—to answer a heartfelt and all-too-relatable question from a listener:
"My husband admits his drinking is a problem, but he's not doing anything about it. If I ask him if he’s looked into AA, Celebrate Recovery, or Regeneration, he says he hasn’t had time and will look into it later. He’s gone to AA meetings before but says he doesn’t think it’s for him. Do I keep bringing this up? I don’t want to nag him, but it’s eating at me inside not to say anything. I feel like we’re in a painful cycle—something happens, we talk about it for a couple days, then we move on until it happens again. I feel like he’s just appeasing me in those moments because he knows I’ll eventually stop asking. He doesn’t communicate his feelings at all, so I have no idea what he’s thinking."
Together, we reflect honestly on what life was like when we were in that same stuck place—and what we wish we had known then. From both sides of the struggle, we share what was helpful, what wasn’t, and what conversations planted real seeds of change.
In Part 1, we explore:
The mindset of an alcoholic who knows there's a problem but isn’t taking action
What a first conversation about recovery looked like in our home
How to approach your husband without nagging—and why timing and tone matter
The emotional toll of watching someone you love choose not to get help
Whether your husband is just beginning to wrestle with his drinking or you feel trapped in a repeating cycle of hope and disappointment, this episode offers honest insight and encouragement from our story and our victory! 
Resources Mentioned:
Joe and Charlie Tapes- 2 Old Timers in AA walking and talking through the Big Book and breaking it down in a way only they can do:) These are available on YouTube and also on the AA app. https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLhl3xlE0-GdweI1gG5QoeY9iIRCt2w_aI 
If you have a question you'd like answered on a future episode—or just want to connect—you can email me at hello@wifeontherocks.com.
If you’re interested in going deeper into the dynamics of your specific situation, you can book a summer 1:1 session with me here:
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Part 2 continues next week with more discussion, insight, and tackling the repetitive cycle that conversations tend to have in active addiction. (Alcohol or Drugs will elicit the same patterns of the cycle resisting sobriety and recovery.)

Ep 27 Summer & Self-Sabotage: Does Your Husband Start Meaningless Fights For An Excuse To Drink?

Summer is supposed to be a time of fun, family, and freedom — but for Christian wives of alcoholics, events like the 4th of July, barbecues, and neighborhood gatherings can catch you off guard with behavior not anticipated. Expecting Family Time but your husband self sabotages in order to drink and you end up alone or with all the kids without him?
In this heartfelt episode of Wife on the Rocks, we’re talking about the real effects of alcohol in marriage — not just on the alcoholic husband, but on the wife and the family unit as a whole. From grill outs where he’s the only one drinking, to family plans that suddenly unravel into chaos, to fireworks nights you end up attending alone with the kids… we get into all of it.
You’ll hear:
How summer events often reveal painful patterns in alcoholic behavior
The emotional toll of being pushed away so he can drink in peace while you carry the family.
The subtle (and not-so-subtle) sabotage that ruins what should be family time
Why choosing not to attend certain events can actually be wise
What it looks like to reclaim peace, even when your heart is breaking
And most importantly, we talk about how you can walk this hard road with strength, with faith, and without losing yourself. Even when it hurts, even when you’re crying on the drive to the fireworks — you are not alone.
💬 Want to share your story or suggest a future episode topic? Email me at hello@wifeontherocks.com
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Ep 26 Conflict in the World, Chaos at Home: How To Find Peace Amid Addiction, Alcoholism, and Anxiety

In this episode of Wife on the Rocks, we’re talking about what it feels like to live in a world full of uncertainty—when bombs are being dropped overseas and emotional bombs are going off in your own home.
With growing tensions between Israel and Iran and news of U.S. involvement, it’s easy to feel overwhelmed by the global instability. But for Christian wives married to alcoholics, the chaos isn’t just out there—it’s also right here, in the home. How do we process fear about the future when we’re already living in a constant state of survival? How do we prepare our families wisely when our husbands aren’t in a position to lead, protect, or even participate in the conversation?
We explore:
What to do when your alcoholic husband can’t offer the strength and stability your family needs
How to talk to your kids when they need reassurance
Why self-sufficiency and emergency planning feel overwhelming when addiction dominates your daily life
Practical steps to quiet your mind and lead your family in peace, even when the world feels like it’s spinning out of control
How to reset your spirit with Scripture and walk in God’s wisdom, not fear
We’re anchoring this episode in two powerful verses:Philippians 4:4-7 – “Do not be anxious about anything…”Matthew 6:25-34 – “Do not worry about tomorrow…”
If you're feeling anxious, under-equipped, or just plain tired of holding it all together—you’re not alone. This episode will help you take a deep breath, reset your mind, and find your footing again with God’s peace as your guide.
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Ep 25 Discerning Who Is Safe To Talk To About Your Alcoholic Husband And The Chaos Of Addiction In Your Home?

How do you know if someone is safe to talk to about your marriage, your alcoholic husband, or the chaos addiction is causing in your home? In this episode of Wife on the Rocks, we explore a powerful litmus test to help Christian wives of alcoholics discern who they can trust with their story—and who might cause more harm than help.
If you’ve ever wondered whether you should open up to a friend, family member, pastor, or counselor about your situation, this episode is for you. You’ll learn how to recognize the difference between biblical counsel and secular advice and how to spot red flags in emotional conversations.
We talk about:
Navigating life with an alcoholic spouse through a Christian lens
How to find safe, biblical support for Christian wives of addicts
The dangers of emotional affairs and male “mentors”
Why gossip and broken trust can hurt your healing
Secular vs. faith-based advice for wives of alcoholics
What makes someone a trustworthy, prayerful support
The importance of recovery groups like Al-Anon for family members of addicts
Plus, I share how Christian coaching for wives of alcoholics can be a lifeline when you don’t have a safe person in your life who understands what you’re walking through. As someone who’s lived this personally, I offer faith-based, confidential coaching to help you navigate this painful season with clarity, peace, and spiritual strength. Email me at Hello@wifeontherocks.com to gain access to the schedule and book a session!
 
 
 
Keywords: Christian wife, alcoholic husband, addiction in the home, Christian counseling, faith-based support, boundaries in marriage, recovery, Al-Anon, emotional safety, biblical advice, Christian marriage help, alcoholism, Christian addiction counseling, wives of addicts, Christian coach, safe support for addiction, Godly counsel for wives, alcohol addiction recovery support.

EP 24 Health: Alcohol, Liver Damage, and Loving a Husband Who Won’t Stop Drinking.

Are you the only one paying attention to the warning signs? What even are the warning signs for Liver Disease and Liver Cirhossis and when to expect them. There may be NO symptoms or concerns at this time, but looking in the future has you concerned? Maybe you are seeing his yellowing eyes, his constant fatigue, his mood swings? Let's unpack this together. 
The only one praying for his health — while he shrugs it off?
If that’s you, I want to start with this:You are not crazy.You are not overreacting.And you are not being controlling for caring deeply about the man you love.
In this episode, I speak directly to the Christian wife who feels alone in her concern — like she’s watching a slow-motion car crash while everyone else looks away. We’ll talk honestly about what alcohol does to the liver, how quietly damage can build, and why your fear makes perfect sense. I’ll also walk you through what you can lovingly release, because it was never yours to carry.
💡 You'll hear:
What the liver actually does and why alcohol attacks it silently
What liver damage looks like in real life (and why symptoms often come late)
The real reason your concern matters — even if he’s not ready to change
What it means to care without carrying
A reminder that you are not his doctor
This isn’t just about biology — it’s about the burden of love, and the freedom of surrender.
📩 Got questions or want to connect?You can reach me anytime at hello@wifeontherocks.com
 
Hepatic Liver, Liver Cirhossis, Liver Disease Signs, Alcohol, Alcoholism, Fatty Liver, Pancreatitis,
You are not alone, sister.And you were never meant to carry this alone.

EP 23 Can You Be a Good Christian Wife and Still Be Angry At The Unfairness Of Addiction?

As a Christian wife living with an alcoholic husband, you’ve probably wrestled with a deep emotional conflict: “I know I’m supposed to forgive, but I’m furious.” In this episode, we’re opening up the conversation about anger—what Scripture really says, why it’s not a sin to feel it, and how to move through it without shame.
We’ll unpack the emotional toll of carrying an unfair burden, the conflict between Christian service and soul-level exhaustion, and what options are actually available to you as a woman of faith in a hurting home. If you’ve been stuffing your emotions to be the "good Christian wife," this one is for you.
📩 I'd love to hear your story or pray for you—email me anytime at hello@wifeontherocks.com
🎙️ Special Tribute: Phil Robertson
Before we close, I’m honoring the life and legacy of Phil Robertson, founder of Duck Commander, beloved husband to Miss Kay, and a man radically transformed by the grace of Jesus. His early years were marked by addiction and brokenness, but God wrote a redemption story that has reached millions.
Their powerful testimony is captured in the film The Blind, which tells the raw and beautiful journey from chaos to Christ. You can also hear Phil and his family on their podcast Unashamed, where they boldly share Scripture, real-life struggles, and the power of the gospel without holding back.
Phil’s story reminds us that no life is too far gone for Jesus to redeem. And that hope? It’s for your home, too.

Ep 22 Part 2 Heavy Drinking or Alcoholism? Not Sure If Hubby Can Stop Drinking Or Not?

Still unsure if your husband is “just” a heavy drinker or a true alcoholic? The truth is: chasing a diagnosis often becomes a distraction that delays the healing process.
In this episode, we talk about why trying to “figure him out” won’t fix anything—and what you can do instead. Whether your husband meets a textbook definition or not, the chaos still hurts, and you deserve peace.
You'll hear:
Why obsessing over the “right” label can keep wives stuck in fear and codependency
4 litmus test questions to help you decide when a boundary is needed
How both heavy drinking and alcoholism cause emotional instability in the home
A Christian perspective on stepping forward without all the answers
Real-life discussion of when helping crosses the line into enabling
This episode is an invitation to stop diagnosing and start discerning what God is calling you to do in your family. 
💌 If you have questions you’d like me to cover on the podcast, or want more info about 1-on-1 coaching, email me at hello@wifeontherocks.com

EP 21 Part 1 Is It Alcoholism Or Just Heavy Drinking? Where Is The Line?

Are you constantly wondering whether your husband is an alcoholic or “just” a heavy drinker? Maybe you've searched for clarity in books, blogs, or online quizzes—hoping that labeling his behavior will give you peace.
In this episode, we break down what the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous says about the three types of drinkers, including what defines a “real alcoholic”—and why understanding this framework may help, but it’s not your responsibility to diagnose.
You'll hear:
A clear overview of the 3 drinker types described in AA literature
What a "real alcoholic" looks like according to the Big Book
Why this knowledge can offer insight—but also keep wives stuck
Real-life home examples of what each type might look like in daily life
Encouragement for Christian wives navigating confusion and chaos
This episode offers education—not to label your husband—but to help you understand what you’re dealing with and why his drinking affects your heart and home either way.
 
If you want to read the full chapter regarding this in the Big Book of  AA here is a link to the Big Book for free online on the AA website. Scroll down for Chapter 2. There is a Solution. (pp.17-29)
https://www.aa.org/the-big-book 
 
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