EP 31 Why Aren't My Boundaries Working? 4 Boundary Mistakes In Active Addiction

Setting boundaries in a marriage impacted by addiction is hard enough—but what happens when we set boundaries that backfire?

In this episode, we’re walking through 4 common boundary mistakes Christian wives often make when navigating life with an alcoholic spouse:

• Boundaries made in anger – when emotions take over and clarity is lost

• Not following through – the emotional toll of boundaries that don’t stick

• Poorly communicated boundaries – the best of intentions, but instantly the defensiveness shows up from hubby!

• Controlling boundaries – These sounded so good in my head, but only caused fights and a cycle of NO change. 

You’ll hear real-life examples of what these mistakes look like in the home—and how to reframe them with love, clarity, and biblical wisdom. Plus, I’ll show you how to spot the difference between a boundary that punishes and one that protects.

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