Wife On The Rocks I Gaslighting, Addiction, Codependency, Al Anon, Alcoholism, Recovery

EP 23 Can You Be a Good Christian Wife and Still Be Angry At The Unfairness Of Addiction?

As a Christian wife living with an alcoholic husband, you’ve probably wrestled with a deep emotional conflict: “I know I’m supposed to forgive, but I’m furious.” In this episode, we’re opening up the conversation about anger—what Scripture really says, why it’s not a sin to feel it, and how to move through it without shame.
We’ll unpack the emotional toll of carrying an unfair burden, the conflict between Christian service and soul-level exhaustion, and what options are actually available to you as a woman of faith in a hurting home. If you’ve been stuffing your emotions to be the "good Christian wife," this one is for you.
📩 I'd love to hear your story or pray for you—email me anytime at hello@wifeontherocks.com
🎙️ Special Tribute: Phil Robertson
Before we close, I’m honoring the life and legacy of Phil Robertson, founder of Duck Commander, beloved husband to Miss Kay, and a man radically transformed by the grace of Jesus. His early years were marked by addiction and brokenness, but God wrote a redemption story that has reached millions.
Their powerful testimony is captured in the film The Blind, which tells the raw and beautiful journey from chaos to Christ. You can also hear Phil and his family on their podcast Unashamed, where they boldly share Scripture, real-life struggles, and the power of the gospel without holding back.
Phil’s story reminds us that no life is too far gone for Jesus to redeem. And that hope? It’s for your home, too.

Ep 22 Part 2 Heavy Drinking or Alcoholism? Not Sure If Hubby Can Stop Drinking Or Not?

Still unsure if your husband is “just” a heavy drinker or a true alcoholic? The truth is: chasing a diagnosis often becomes a distraction that delays the healing process.
In this episode, we talk about why trying to “figure him out” won’t fix anything—and what you can do instead. Whether your husband meets a textbook definition or not, the chaos still hurts, and you deserve peace.
You'll hear:
Why obsessing over the “right” label can keep wives stuck in fear and codependency
4 litmus test questions to help you decide when a boundary is needed
How both heavy drinking and alcoholism cause emotional instability in the home
A Christian perspective on stepping forward without all the answers
Real-life discussion of when helping crosses the line into enabling
This episode is an invitation to stop diagnosing and start discerning what God is calling you to do in your family. 
💌 If you have questions you’d like me to cover on the podcast, or want more info about 1-on-1 coaching, email me at hello@wifeontherocks.com

EP 21 Part 1 Is It Alcoholism Or Just Heavy Drinking? Where Is The Line?

Are you constantly wondering whether your husband is an alcoholic or “just” a heavy drinker? Maybe you've searched for clarity in books, blogs, or online quizzes—hoping that labeling his behavior will give you peace.
In this episode, we break down what the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous says about the three types of drinkers, including what defines a “real alcoholic”—and why understanding this framework may help, but it’s not your responsibility to diagnose.
You'll hear:
A clear overview of the 3 drinker types described in AA literature
What a "real alcoholic" looks like according to the Big Book
Why this knowledge can offer insight—but also keep wives stuck
Real-life home examples of what each type might look like in daily life
Encouragement for Christian wives navigating confusion and chaos
This episode offers education—not to label your husband—but to help you understand what you’re dealing with and why his drinking affects your heart and home either way.
 
If you want to read the full chapter regarding this in the Big Book of  AA here is a link to the Big Book for free online on the AA website. Scroll down for Chapter 2. There is a Solution. (pp.17-29)
https://www.aa.org/the-big-book 
 
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💭 Have a question you'd like answered on the show? Email me anytime at hello@wifeontherocks.com and I may include it in a future episode.

Ep 20 Helping Your Husband Or Enabling Addiction? A Litmus Test For Wives

If you’ve ever wondered whether you’re helping your husband or enabling his addiction, this episode is for you. As Christian wives, we’re called to love and support—but when codependency creeps in, it can be hard to tell if our actions are helping or hurting.
In today’s episode, I share two simple but powerful questions—your litmus test—to help you decide where a boundary might be needed. These questions will help you check your motives, discern if you're stepping into an enabler role, and bring clarity to those hard, in-the-moment decisions.
We’ll talk about how not setting boundaries can leave you feeling more like his mother than his wife, and how resentment often builds when we’re stuck in a cycle of codependency. We'll also explore the ever-shifting line between helping from a place of faith and unintentionally enabling, and why that line often has to be redrawn with each situation.
If you're navigating the storm of loving a man in addiction and want to reclaim your peace, this episode offers both practical tools and spiritual encouragement.
✨ Want to be added to the waitlist or get more info about 1:1 coaching sessions?📩 Email me at hello@wifeontherocks.com – I’d love to support you.
💬 Have a question you’d love to hear answered on the show?Send it to hello@wifeontherocks.com, and I’ll try to include it in a future episode.

Ep 19 Peace in the Chaos Starts Here: A Mindset for Boundaries as the Wife of an Alcoholic

In this episode on boundaries, we return to the basics—what they are, why they matter, and how they serve as a powerful shield for your peace. Think of boundaries not as walls to keep your husband out, but as a protective dome that creates space between you and the chaos of addiction. This distance isn’t about punishment—it’s about preserving your well-being and protecting your children.
If you're a Christian wife navigating life with an alcoholic husband, this episode is for you. Whether you’re just beginning to explore boundaries or need a fresh reminder of why they matter, you’ll find clarity and encouragement here.
 Want your questions answered in a future episode?Submit them anytime—I'd love to hear from you. hello@wifeontherocks.com
 If you're struggling to set healthy boundaries and need outside perspective, support, and accountability, I’m opening up a handful of 1-on-1 sessions soon. Email me at hello@wifeontherocks.com to be added to the list.

Ep 18 //Interview// An Alcoholic Husband’s Perspective: Pre Recovery + Active Alcoholism Thought Process Of Denial and Minimization

Have you ever wondered what your husband is thinking!? Active Addiction comes with all kinds of twisted thinking in the mind to justify otherwise unhealthy behavior. In this powerful episode, we delve into the intricate journey from a husband's perspective as alcohol steadily takes command over life. I'm joined by my husband, who courageously opens up about the deep, internal conflict he faced during his battle with alcoholism trying to prove alcohol wasn’t a problem. 
For many men, the path down this dark road is marked by denial, shame, and an overwhelming sense of being trapped. If you're striving to understand what happens when alcohol becomes the silent third party in your marriage, this episode sheds light on just that.
Join us as we discuss:
1. **The Subtle Descent**: How my husband first began to notice alcohol's grip tightening around his life, evolving from a social pastime to a looming dependency.
2. **Living a Double Life**: Listen as he shares the internal battle between projecting a facade of control and feeling engulfed by the chaos within as he fought the truth that alcoholism was taking over. 
3. **Denial and Justification**: A raw look at the excuses he made to himself and others, all while the addiction quietly reshaped his world.
In opening his heart, my husband provides invaluable insights into the mind of someone entangled in addiction’s clutches. Our candid discussion is an invitation to wives seeking understanding, drawing the curtain back to illuminate the complexities faced by christian men dealing with addiction and offer a pathway to empathy and healing in the marital relationship. 
Today’s Referenced Quote:
”Addiction is a response to human suffering” 
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You don’t have to walk through this alone!! If you're interested in getting on the wait list for a one-on-one session with me, please email me at hello@wifeontherocks.com
Additionally, if you have any questions for the show, whether it's my perspective or my husband’s, send them my way at hello@wifeontherocks.com

Ep 17 Recovery of Your Family Begins With YOU! Combatting Childhood Trauma From The Trenches. ACA Al Ateen

In this powerful episode, Recovery of Your Family Begins With YOU!, I share a story I heard in Al-Anon that stopped me in my tracks—a story that helped me see how my efforts to “smooth things over” in a home affected by alcoholism were actually hurting more than helping.
Children don’t need everything to look okay. They need someone who is okay—someone stable, trustworthy, and emotionally safe. As Christian wives and moms navigating life with an alcoholic loved one, we are called to be that safe harbor. This episode is an invitation to take honest inventory, let go of unhealthy patterns, and choose a better path—for our kids, and for ourselves.
Healing starts with YOU Mama!!
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Check Out The Children/Parenting Series:
EP 15 Childhood Trauma And The Impact of Alcoholism On Our Kids! ACA ACOA CPTSD
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/wife-on-the-rocks-i-gaslighting-addiction/id1780450985?i=1000702802054
EP 16 Parenting Through The Dysfunction Of Alcoholism. How Do I Lead My Kiddos? ACOA Al Ateen Al Anon 
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/wife-on-the-rocks-i-gaslighting-addiction/id1780450985?i=1000703692052 EP 17 Recovery Of Your Family Begins With You! Combatting Childhood Trauma From The Trenches. ACA Al Ateen
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/wife-on-the-rocks-i-gaslighting-addiction/id1780450985?i=1000704550728 ———
Related Parenting Episodes:
EP 02 Parenting With An Alcoholic Husband? Tips For Peace and Joy With Kids. 
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/wife-on-the-rocks-i-gaslighting-addiction/id1780450985?i=1000678239979 
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Links for more information:
ACOA and ACA https://adultchildren.org/ 
Al Anon https://al-anon.org/ 
Al Ateen https://al-anon.org/newcomers/teen-corner-alateen/
 
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Want to go deeper? If this episode spoke to you and you're ready to start untangling the chaos with someone who gets it, I’d love to walk with you. Email me at hello@wifeontherocks.com to get on the waiting list for a one-on-one session—personalized support, rooted in faith, just for you.
And don’t forget—I'm always accepting questions at hello@wifeontherocks.com. I’ll be weaving your questions into future episodes, so feel free to reach out anytime.
Resources mentioned in this episdoe. AA Alcoholics Annonymous,  Al Anon, Al Ateen, ACOA 

Ep 16 Parenting Through The Dysfunction Of Alcoholism: How Do I Lead My Kiddos? ACOA Al Ateen Al Anon

Send your questions to the show! hello@wifeontherocks.com
Our kids are looking to us for guidance on how to navigate all of this. They can get caught up in the confusion and the family disease of alcoholism. As the wife of an alcoholic and the momma to these souls, and future ACOA members what can you be doing to help them to get through this too!? Our role is so important mommas!!
 
What legacy are you leaving for your kiddos? When they are adults what questions will they have for you regarding what they have seen and lived through? ACOA Adult Children of Alcoholics, Al Anon as well as Al Ateen have some thoughts on what we can be doing to teach our kids how to navigate. 
Check Out The Children/Parenting Series:
EP 15 Childhood Trauma And The Impact of Alcoholism On Our Kids! ACA ACOA CPTSD
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/wife-on-the-rocks-i-gaslighting-addiction/id1780450985?i=1000702802054
EP 16 Parenting Through The Dysfunction Of Alcoholism. How Do I Lead My Kiddos? ACOA Al Ateen Al Anon 
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/wife-on-the-rocks-i-gaslighting-addiction/id1780450985?i=1000703692052 EP 17 Recovery Of Your Family Begins With You! Combatting Childhood Trauma From The Trenches. ACA Al Ateen
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/wife-on-the-rocks-i-gaslighting-addiction/id1780450985?i=1000704550728 ———
Related Parenting Episodes:
EP 02 Parenting With An Alcoholic Husband? Tips For Peace and Joy With Kids. 
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/wife-on-the-rocks-i-gaslighting-addiction/id1780450985?i=1000678239979 
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Links for more information:
ACOA and ACA https://adultchildren.org/ 
Al Anon https://al-anon.org/ 
Al Ateen https://al-anon.org/newcomers/teen-corner-alateen/ 
 
Would you like a safe place to share your heart? Tired of running in circles trying to fix all of this? Want to learn skills to navigate crisis parenting? Email to get on the waiting list for a one-on-one session with Wife On The Rocks. hello@wifeontherocks.com 

EP 15 Childhood Trauma and The Impact of Alchoholism on Our Kids! ACOA CPTSD

The impact of alcoholism on me was IMMENSE! However, my kids were experiencing all of this too through the littlest eyes and innoent hearts! I did not used to know how to lead them through all of this! Addiction really impacted our family! I have learned SO many tools and nuggets of wisdom over the years that helped me to navigate what our family was experiencing! If you are a mamma bear, you don't want to miss this episode highlighting our kiddos and their experience! ♥ 
 
Children grow up and their childhood trauma can still impact them years down the road. This is why the ACOA Adult Child Of Alcoholic Literature and groups exist. Our children will grow up to be those adults one day and the more we learn ourselves, to in turn teach them to navigate the trauma, the better their chances are to be part of breaking this cycle. 
It begins with us Mamma!  
Check Out The Children/Parenting Series:
EP 15 Childhood Trauma And The Impact of Alcoholism On Our Kids! ACA ACOA CPTSD
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/wife-on-the-rocks-i-gaslighting-addiction/id1780450985?i=1000702802054
EP 16 Parenting Through The Dysfunction Of Alcoholism. How Do I Lead My Kiddos? ACOA Al Ateen Al Anon 
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/wife-on-the-rocks-i-gaslighting-addiction/id1780450985?i=1000703692052 EP 17 Recovery Of Your Family Begins With You! Combatting Childhood Trauma From The Trenches. ACA Al Ateen
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/wife-on-the-rocks-i-gaslighting-addiction/id1780450985?i=1000704550728 ———
Related Parenting Episodes:
EP 02 Parenting With An Alcoholic Husband? Tips For Peace and Joy With Kids. 
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/wife-on-the-rocks-i-gaslighting-addiction/id1780450985?i=1000678239979 
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Links for more information:
ACOA and ACA https://adultchildren.org/ 
Al Anon https://al-anon.org/ 
Al Ateen https://al-anon.org/newcomers/teen-corner-alateen/
 
 

Ep 14 Being Married To An Alcoholic is SO Lonely! Who Can You Talk To As The Trauma Piles Up?

Tune in to hear ONE thing that God taught me during this painful lonely season. Being married to an alcoholic who thinks that everything is FINE is SO frustrating! Active addiction is exhausting. AA says that Alcohol is "Cunning, Baffling and Powerful" and it is SO True. The one person that I wanted to talk to was the one person who was also hurting our family, so who else could I talk to? I didn't want my friends and family to know how bad it was and they would all have their own opinions anyway!
God convicted me on how to handle this very dilemna and I accepted the 30 day challenge. Try it for yourself and your situation! See what God can do ♥ 
 
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